What is the prevailing opinion here on underage sex? How do you feel about the law stating a 15 yr. old (like myself) can not have consensual sex with a 10 yr. old girl? I am below the age of consensual sex myself, but is it wrong for me to want to have sex with others below the consensual age?

I first had sex when I was 11, and she was 11 too, and ever since I can't stop thinking of sex with girls younger than 13. I don't know why this is, most guys my age are looking at girls our age or older.

Why i am attracted to younger girls? Does anyone have an opinion? What can I do about this? What should I do?

--jaredvillhelm2005

In all honesty?

Just because it's legal somewhere doesn't make you less a pediophile for doing it.

In another post you've said you're 16 and listed for girls ages as young as 9. I'm wondering exactly where on earth you are that that sort of age difference is legal.

Kiari, it is legal in every state except one in the USA. When I was 15, younger girls often tried to entice me to sex with them, but I wanted to save myself for marraige. With less self control, I could have been in the same place at that age as this young man.

My first sexual experience was when I was not a teen yet, and my 12 year old girlfriend taught me to feel her up. I knew nothing about anything sexual before then but the basics from books. AFter that, I always had an appitite and curiosity about sex and the female in general.

I was also orally molested when I was 14 by an adult. That indidividual could never get over their attraction to teens.

I am thankful that I did not engage in the act of sex until well into adulthood. I shudder to think of how my view could have been scewed if I had given in fully (as most of my peers had) at such a young age. I knew only one other claiming virgin my age when I graduated.


In answer to you question, Jared, I think it is a bad idea to allow sex between children at all. Some people dissagree with me, but I think it is very unhealthy to allow children to be having sex with each other, even if they are the same age.

When I was 12, it was in the news that an 8 year old girl in my neighborhood was expelled from school for seducing more than 100 boys at her school. She did not break any laws, so they could not arrest her.

It is the same with boys. A 16 year old can legally have sex with a 9 year old, as you pointed out. What does this do to the 9 year old?

We have a society today with children getting pregnant at 12 and 13 years old in record numbers, where sexual addiciton has gotten to the place that there are actually "Sex Addicts Annonymous" groups.

Some say that consenting sex is fine between people of the same age. Some say that is the same with children. Some agree that a number of years should be placed on it as a limit, like 2 years age difference and so on. But nothing has been done, and the rampet very emotionally dangerous behavior continues.

I think that part of the problem of the existance of so many pedophiles in America is due to just what you are describing. Perfectly legal sex between consenting children, niether of whom have reached an age of consent. No wonder these kids are growing up to be attracted to kids - it is the first sexual experience they have known!

My opinion about the fact that it is legal - it should not be. There should be laws against children having sex with children, in my opinion. There are chemical and emotional consequences on the body and brain that American children are not prepared to handle, and in my opinion, it is downright dangerous.

Your query shows that you already know the answer to this one. 10 year old girls are not capable of having consensual sex. Young "adults" like yourself shouldn't be having sex with children. There are too many power/trust/exploitation issues getting in the way for both parties, and (in this society, anyway), it's just plain unacceptable.

To put it bluntly, I believe if you do this, you are a pedophile.

I don't know where you got those age statistics, but once again, you're wrong. The first place I looked was at my state, Mississippi, and it clearly states that the Age of Consent is WAY older than ten.

It's normal for people to feel a sexual attraction to people who have sexual characteristics. In the case of the attraction of boys to girls, one would expect a boy to be attracted by mature physical sexual characteristics such as breasts, wider hips, sexual pheronomes, a maturing of the face, a taller stature, a lowered voice, etc. Young children don't have any of these sexual characteristics, so you must ask yourself -- when you are attracted to a 9 year old child, what is it that you are finding attractive? What is it that you are seeing that makes you feel sexually interested?

A child is not physically mature to the extent you are, cannot relate to you on the same mental level. I don't know the circumstances that resulted in you having sex at the age of 11, whether it was consenual with another child your own age or abuse by an adult. Whatever your own history, you are obliged, as a mature young man, to consider the well-being and health of the person you are attracted to, and if you are not a criminal then you will refrain from doing harm no matter how atraccted you feel.

I would characterize very early sexual relations as unhealthy both mentally and physically. Were you to introduce a little girl aged 9, 10, 11, or 12 into sexual relations with yourself, the law and society will consider you a criminal and child molester.

My opinion is that you start associating and spending more time with females that are close to your age, and stop your fantasizing about little children before it leads to something criminal for you and harmful to a little kid. If you find you are unable to stop thinking about it, you should seek counseling immediately.

Right now you haven't acted, so it isn't too late to get help to keep you from ruining your own life and that of a child. Once you act, you've done harm to a child. Once you've done harm to a child, the world will want you behind bars, and I think we've all heard of how "short eyes" offenders are treated in prison.

Seek help if you are obsessed. Talk to a social worker, psychologist, or spiritual counselor. Don't get stuck in a cycle of abuse and criminal activity, save yourself now.

You are the author of your own destiny, the captain of your own ship. Don't sail it off a cliff.